To be totally honest, I was not at all surprised by the findings in the
article. The media and the influence from those around children are to blame
for this. “Children growing up today are bombarded from a very early age with
graphic messages about sex and sexiness in the media and popular culture”
(Levin and Kilbourne, 2009, p. 2). I can see how children are practically
forced into being this way. They simply observe and mimic what they see. I have
witnessed this many times. Here are a few examples:
Just
the other day when I was getting my eye brows waxed, the lady who was waxing my
brows started telling me how much of a diva her 4 ½ year old is. She told me
that her daughter asked her if she can wear make-up to school so she would look
beautiful. She said she allowed her to do so. I was shocked that she would
allow her very young daughter to wear make-up. Then, she went on to say that
she arches her eye brows for her. She even told me that her daughter asked for
her to wax her brows. She said she did, but her daughter said that it hurt too
much to do again, so she will just make her pluck them.
While
working as an afterschool teacher, there was a little girl who never liked to
play when we went outside. She was always dressed nicely and even kept her
nails done. Her nails always matched what she was wearing. She always applied
lip gloss every few minutes, as she looked into her compact mirror. Many of the
other children would say that the girl thought she was better than everyone
else. When her mother picked her up, she seemed to be the same way as her
child. Her nails always matched her outfits and she, too, applied lipstick and
gloss while she waited for her daughter to gather all of her belongings.
I
once observed a group of boys rating girls as they passed by them. This was in
a shopping mall in the food court. The boys looked like they were about 7-10
years old. While sitting at their table, I could hear them saying things like,
“Yeah, I’ll date her,” “No, she is flat chested,” and “Dang, she looks good.” I
assumed that they observed what was considered “beauty” and what was not based
on what they media portrays.
During
outside time, I once heard a group of girls talking about their weight and
size. One girl offered another girl advice to “eat more rice and peanut butter
sandwiches because she was too skinny.” Another girl was telling the other
girls that she started doing squats with her older sister so she would have
toned legs and a bigger bottom.
Children can face many implications regarding this
issue. “In the most extreme cases, the media’s incessant sexualization of
childhood can contribute to pathological sexual behavior, including sexual
abuse, pedophilia, and prostitution” (Levin & Kilbourne, 2009, p.4). This
is really an issue that should be taken seriously. People may think it is
harmless or “cute” but children are actually affected by this. I would take the
time to research this and advocate for the well-being of children and their
futures. I would even discuss this issue with children and their families,
expressing how important it is to be yourself and be proud of who you are. Reading
about this topic has allowed me to really see just how much children are
focused on the wrong things at such a young age. They should be more concerned
about enjoying their childhood and not what they look like.
Reference
Levin, D. E., & Kilbourne, J. (2009). [Introduction]. So
sexy so soon: The new sexualized childhood and what parents can do to protect
their kids (pp. 1-8). New York: Ballantine Books. Retrieved from:
http://dianeelevin.com/sosexysosoon/introduction.pdf
Ashley,
ReplyDeleteIt is so sad that children have to endure such things at such a young age. Like you said, many times parents and caregivers think it is cute when they see a little girl dressed like a woman or when she asks to put on make-up. What happens in the end is that it only gets worse as they get older and then it is almost impossible to handle. Both boys and girls are pushed into precocious sexuality in appearance and behavior long before they understand the deeper meaning of relationships or of the sexual behavior they`re imitating (Levin & Kilbourne, 2009). The example of the boys in the food court is a perfect example showing that at the ages these boys have, they still do not understand the true meaning of relationships. Thanks for sharing.
Stephanie
Levin, D. E., & Kilbourne, J. (2009). [Introduction]. So sexy so soon: The new sexualized childhood and what parents can do to protect their kids (pp. 1-8). New York: Ballantine Books
Dear Ashley,
ReplyDeleteIt is beats my imagination how some parents and caregivers think it is cute when little children dress or act like adults on matters that has to do with sexual behavior. More worrisome and annoying is when they put the blame of effects of these on teachers. A colleague told me of how some parents in a her school wrote against the stuco advisor because of the lewd ways students dressed to their prom! Now who should take the blame? These are children that came to the prom form their respective homes. I believe some of the parent even did the shopping for them. The home definitely have the most important role to play in stemming the dangers of children sexualization. Thanks for sharing.
It is so sad when parents give into their child;s every whim. I think it was ridiculous when the mom waxed her four year old daughters eyebrows and allowed her to wear make. Our children are being sexualized enough it should not come from the inside. I believe her mother is opening up a can of worms. When this child get a bit older her mother is not going to be able to correct her because she allowed it at such a young age. Children grow up so fast as it is let them be children and enjoy their childhood. According to Levin & Kilbourne (2009) sadly, today, instead of having the positive experiences they need for healthy development, many children are having experiences that undermine it ( p.4). Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteReferences
Levin, D E., & Kilbourne, J. (2009). [Introduction] So sexy so soon: The new sexualized childhood and what parents can do to protect their kids (pp.1-8). New York: Ballantine Books
Ashley,
ReplyDeleteIt is really sad that our children think that wearing makeup, fake finger nails, and dancing sexually is the right thing to do. I cannot tell you how many times I have logged on Facebook and saw parents recording their daughters engaging in inappropriate activities. They thought it was "cute" and funny. But this is no laughing matter. Children deserve the best and we cannot allow them to sexualize themselves at an early age. I am glad children and families have people like you and my colleagues who are motivated to teach our children to do better. I enjoyed reading your post.
Latasha